Jogging on the treadmill of life as a working woman is exhausting. Your boss needs you to do something. Your team needs your support. Your kids need you for basic life skills every day. Your spouse or partner needs that special time with you.
Life is full of demands and chaos, and yet, up until now we all felt pressured to follow the phenomenon kindly called "social media image crafting." It suggests that, despite the private chaos that is a working woman's life, we need to display an orderly, perfect existence.
I'm predicting a grand shift in 2016.
May this be the year that all working women join hands and give up on the exhausting feat of perfectionism.
Can I getta high five, ladies?
At some point in history, all women -- myself included -- sat around a fire pit, pricked a finger, and did a pinky promise to self-inflict the burden of perfectionism upon themselves.
No one invited us to the party. We weren't coerced. We simply showed up, shouted "count me in!" and watched the 24/7 party take shape.
girl, that party's ovah.
Up until this tipping point, tendencies toward perfectionism at work, in our homes, and on our online profiles has been a weight we're dragging around like an imprisoned felon.
And, by the way, continuing to pretend it's all perfect on our Instagram profiles is only adding fuel to every other woman's fire.
The after-effect of perfect homes, perfect projects at work, and perfect little children is a state of limited joy. And it's about time we join together and change that.
the new party invitation.
We need to start a new, kinder cocktail hour. One where we forgive ourselves for leaving out one part of the work assignment, because we know it'd be better to get it done sooner and hammer that lingering item out as a group. Or be okay with letting it go when a few nights out of the week when we don't craft a perfect meal for dinner. Or happily greet a friend at our door even when our home looks "lived in" and unkempt.
Life's a little more joyous when we've got a little paint on our cheek, isn't it?
most of all, we need to remember that:
- Our purpose is greater than perfection. The reason we're here and the goals we're setting out to accomplish are much grander than the appearance of order.
- There's beauty in the chaos. Your life is real. It's chaotic. And let's face it -- that probably isn't changing. Neither is the fact that it's truly beautiful as it is.
- There's grace in honesty. Honesty and humility are two of the most gracious traits a woman can own. Embrace them -- especially when it comes to being honest and humble with yourself.
I recently recorded a Periscope on this topic. If you wanna check it out, visit the archive video here.