Modern Mom, Beka Rendell is sharing her thoughts on how she manages the balance of staying home with her kids while running her successful creative agency, Styled Creative. She touches on the pressure women feel today to "do-it-all" and how we're all trying to balance the many roles and hats we put on every day.
Tell us about your family - what does a typical weekday look like?
Get up at 6:30-7am, try to get in a quick workout before the kids wake up. Kids are up by 7-7:30, make breakfast, get everybody ready, and we are out-the-door for school.
I am home with the kids a few days a week and we have a sitter the other days so we are always juggling activities depending on what is going on with work. I try each week to spend time with each of the kids individually so they can have my full attention. On the days that our sitter is with the kids, I head out the door around 9:00am.
Each day is really different in my line of work. The week can be a mix of photoshoots, scouting locations, pulling props or I can be in the studio creating concept boards for clients or working with designers in a private stylist roll to introduce their collection to a new market. Usually by 4:00, I am making my way back to our house to prep dinner and spend the evening with Jesse [my husband] and the kids in the backyard (when it is nice outside).
How do you think motherhood today is different than our mothers' generation?
My mom was a “do it all” kind of woman so I don’t know if it has changed that much from what I was used to. One thing I do see that is different is the amount of mom entrepreneurs. A large group of my mom friends are building businesses so I see the shift in the traditional 9-5 work life. There are upsides and downsides to this. For one, the flexibility to be with the kids when you need to be is great, however; the workday doesn’t end at 5pm, so you have a hard time turning it off.
How do you approach mothering challenges when they come up?
Try to stay as calm as possible. These little ones watch everything-- especially when it comes to your reaction in any situation!
Pictured above: Beka with son, Dean in January 2013
What's the most important value you'd like to pass onto your children?
Respect and kindness are at the top of my list.
What lessons learned from your own childhood do you take to heart?
Kindness is one that really stands out for me. You never know what is happening in others’ lives at that moment that you get to encounter them, you may be the only person who is bringing joy into their life, even if it is for a split second.